I love watching my two little cousins play with each other, because they are the most cutest and loveliest creatures I have ever seen. Not being cheesy, but just the sight of the tiny eyes and chubby hands makes my heart grow fond. I feel a sweet serendipity, a peace like no other whenever I hear their voices . It is a pleasure to behold, unlike any other, when you hold them in your hands and make them say words they don't understand. All the pain , fatigue and stress in me go missing for a while, and I am the happiest person on earth.
She would always quarrel with her brother for the most trivial things; ants, slippers, Ultraman and teddy bears; in tears and screaming unintelligible words-she speaks Spanish by the way-but seconds later they would be playing together again. As if nothing had happened. Kids always forgive and forget, no matter what you did to them . If only that the world adopt such policy, there would be an eternal peace.
Kids' fights are somewhat funny and simply short, it always ends with both of them coming to you with teary eyes and making reports about the other , demanding for a justice, and that's that, they would be playing again soon . But I like to remind you that the same thing does not happen when adults quarrel.
Fights among adults are among the most ugliest thing that ever happened upon this planet. They exchange cruel remarks and curse words that one can never imagine. It is detrimental to everybody, a mental torture, verbal abuse, depressing for kids who are taking exams-seriously. Nobody likes to see people quarrel . Nobody, ever, likes to hear any curse words and verbal discontentment. Nobody in this world would ever want to see any two sane people yappering and slapping each other like retards, savages of the jungle, apes of the Amazon, two dominant gorillas, greedy pigs and hungry ducks. No. One. Ever.
Grow up. Seriously.
There is a limit to everything we do upon this planet. We cannot eat too much food. We cannot sleep for too long. There's a limit to exercise, studies and love. There is also an age limit when your fights are no more kids' fights, when it is freaking immature, when such things should stop forever. It is very not cute.
I was once a very angry person. I was mad at everything that can move. I slapped a close friend and scolded my teacher alive. I even feared myself for I was also angry at myself. There were reasons for that, but let's not talk about it. Every prefect in school received my piece of mind with the utmost discontent, and I used morning speeches in the assembly to scold everybody. Sorry for that. It was eons ago, and I went past that craziness. I learnt how to forgive everybody. I discovered a way to look someone in the eye , forget everything he did and make amends.
I found a way to forgive , and to say sorry, even for things you did not do. I realized that winning is not important at all , you have to admit that you are wrong in some arguments for the sake of peace. Even if you are so obviously right, you have to give in at times. I learnt to forgive myself, and that is indeed a blessing.
If you are over-aged, and you quarrel for trivial things like kids do, here are the things that you must follow;
1. You must not get married. Who would want to marry someone who argues about socks? That would be one hell of a marriage.
2. Don't go near kids, EVER. Adult's fights cause trauma among children, creating an unhealthy picture of how adults should behave in their young minds. Be ashamed of yourselves.
3. Never try to lead some group or plan some activities. You are the worst leader on earth.
4. Learn to forgive. What do you get from a continuous hate and anger , other than stress and tension? Learn to forgive. It is always a million times better to forgive than to despise.
Learn to forgive. Forgive me. Forgive yourself. Forgive everyone.
5. Try not to retaliate. When someone curses you, don't slap him in the face. Don't curse him back. Just smile , and wave , like good penguins. Say nothing. That ends everything, and why shouldn't it do so? If someone hits you, just hold back or just run away.
The strongest person is not the buffest guy, remember? Nabi Muhammad pbuh taught us that the strongest person is the one who defeats his anger.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Seriously.
6. Say sorry. Say SORRY. It is just one word. Just one word. You lose nothing by saying it. It takes less than a second to word it out, minimum facial contractions, and a bit of air. Just say sorry, you arrogant, egoistic ,narcissistic human. Sorry for that. SAY SORRY. LOSE NOTHING.
Sorry. Sorry. Sorry, and sorry again. Seriously, just say it. Even if you are right. Even if they are wrong . SAY SORRY.
When you forgive someone, you will feel a great peace and serenity in your hearts. I promise you that. People kill to feel that kind of peace , seriously. It is as if you have a burden weighing 20 tons on your shoulders being lifted away. Say sorry, and you would be the humblest man. There is nothing wrong to say sorry, but there is always something wrong when you fight back.
There are times when you really should be angry-at times when a man who committed statutory rape gets nothing for that crime-for example, you can shoot the judge or bomb the court.
But most of the times, you should never ever ever ever be angry.
"Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. "Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people."
Grow up, seriously.